An Interracial Dating Questionnare...what do you REALLY think?

I'm struggling with that question right now (saw "Black Snake Moan" and "Something New" this weekend). As a Black guy, I sometimes feel a "we don't want you here" undercurrent. A good example are the dating websites (like yahoo personals or match.com)...when you do a search, a large % of the women that specify a preference for their "mate" actively leave out African-American as an option...it makes me think that there's the "public answer," and the "answer for me." I take the latter as more real. So the questions: (1) have you ever gone out with someone of another race, (2) if your son/daughter brought home someone of another race, would you even blink or would it foster some thought on your part (and if this happened to you, what'd you do?), and (3) all things being equal (personality, socio-economics, etc.) would you prefer your own race? Keep it real, blind "pollyanism" doesn't reflect what a large % of people are really saying when they're looking for someone for themselves!